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Jan 02 2018
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Mar 18 2018
Shortly before you meet someone, send him a Pre-Meeting Reminder Message
Each meeting gives you three contacts with your Brother.
- First, a message confirming the meeting in the next eight to 18 hours.
- The actual meeting. And scheduling the next meeting.
- The post-meeting thankyou message eight to 24 hours later.
Why this time frame?
You want to give him time to get your message. He also may have a conflict so will need to reschedule. If you do it any earlier, he may get distracted and forget your meeting.
These timings assume you are using cell phone text messaging or a voice call/message. You may need to allow more time if you have to use email. You need to know how your Brother usually responds.
Pre-meeting reminder Elements
- Greet him using his preferred name. If you accidentally send it to the wrong person his guy will probably let you know so you can correct it.
- Tell him you are looking forward to seeing him.
- Remind him of the time a location.
- Again allude to your positive anticipation.
And here are a few do not’s
- Please do not remind him of anything he promised to do between meetings. Your message is enough of a prompt.
- Don’t mention anything you plan to give him or do for him. You may learn at the meeting your plan is not best for him now.
- Also, don’t repeat any gossip you have heard related to him. You are building a positive connection with him. Sharing gossip weakens relationships. Remember you are helping him develop positive relationships with others. Even positive reports are a problem. He may wonder if you also talk to other about him.
- Do not ask him to confirm. Just sending him a message does that. If he can not make then, he will let you know. A no-show that tells you a lot about him. Asking him to respond seems like you do not trust him.
Pre-meeting Reminder Message examples
- Hey Joe. I am sure looking forward to seeing you tomorrow, same time usual place. Frank.
- Tom, Sure looking forward to seeing you tomorrow. I have us meeting at the Polar Bear Cafe at 1234 North Antarctic Blvd. for lunch at 11:30. Meet you there. 🙂 Frank.
Here is an outside source that warns about using the word “just” in reminder messages.
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Jan 18 2018
Did you schedule your next meeting as your left each other? Now, within eight to 24 hours, say thank you for his time. Cell phone text messages work best for a post-meeting thankyou. If that is not possible, try email or kill a tree and use the postal service.
Why this time frame?
If you wait a while, then your message becomes another contact. It reminds your brother of what you discussed. It may help him follow through on actionable items. Waiting a while helps him know you care about the relationship, that you think about and pray for him when you are not together.
Each meeting gives you three contact with your Brother.
- First, a message confirming the meeting eight to 18 hours in advance.
- The actual meeting.
- Now, the post-meeting thankyou message eight to 24 hours later.
But shouldn’t he say thank you?
Well, he may. But do not expect him to say it. You, the older guy, should say it first. Your thanking him is a model for him. You are helping him learn how he should bless others.
After all, you may have asked him to help you with a task or project. Hence you need to thank him!
Just remember, you are to treat him as a peer.
What if he says Thank You first?
My experience is that it does not happen often. If the younger man does, then mention it in your thank your message.
Thank you Elements
- Greet him using his preferred name
- Express gratitude for his time.
- Thank him for some personal detail he shared with you. The thanks will help him to relax and deal with this issue. It will also encourage him to be open to deepening the relationship.
- When he helps with a project of yours, express your gratitude.
- If he gave you something, then tell him how you will use it.
- If he bought your meal or snack, then be sure to thank him for it again.
- Mention the date, time and place of your next meeting together. This review will help make sure it is on both calendars!
- Anything you gave him or did for him!
- Any negative information he shared. It is often gossip. You are helping him build positive relationships.
Post-meeting Thankyou Message examples
- Hey Joe. Thanks for our meeting today. I enjoyed hearing about your promotion at work. Congratulations. I am praying that your ministry to your son will be accepted. See you next week, same time and place.
- Tom, it was so good to meet with you yesterday. I am praising the Lord that you have an increasing ministry in the Village. Thanks for my lunch salad. I am looking for to seeing you again on the 19th of next month. I will meet you at the same time at your gate just like yesterday.
Here is an outside resource that may help you with the elements of a simple thank you message.
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Jan 15 2018
Near the end of each session is the best time to schedule the next meeting.
How to schedule the next meeting
Pull out your calendar and say “When do you want to get together again?” He will probably get his out too. Let him make a suggestion first. (Do not steal control at this point!) If at all possible take it. If you cannot, they say why but do not reveal personal details. Just say “Sorry I have a conflict. When else might work?
When am going to be out of town several months, I still set up a meeting. Just do a pre-meeting contact about ten days before. (That is a subject for a later post.)
Integrity when you schedule the next meeting
Always honor previous meeting commitments. If you do not, you have made your self a liar to the first person. Do not promise to move some other appointment to make one with this guy. That is making distinctions, and that is not a Christian thing to do! (Gal 3:28; James 2:1-9) Let God control those things. You are serving Him to let God control your calendar. When I have tried to rearrange things, it as usually been a great mistake.
Your tool to schedule the next meeting.
By the way, smart-phone calendars work best. They are always up-to-date. Just be sure to hit “save” after you enter something. Second, best is a pocket calendar unless of course, you have your computer with you. If you are not using the phone, then be sure very sure you update your “real” calendar. And if you are meeting several guys today, make sure you do not create a conflict.
Occasionally someone for logistical reason needs a delay. If so, then make a date you will contact that person. But be very careful. That is an easy way to lose contact with someone. That just happened to me today😔.
I have only had one negative response in the past 5 or so years. That was a person who had an entrenched odd theological position. He was just trying to drum up support for it.
In the after session text contact mention the agreed time and location. (There will be another post of after meeting “thank you” messages.) Rehearsing the date will help ensure it is on the other guy’s calendar too.
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