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Do not tear down the work of God for the sake of food. All things indeed are clean, but they are evil for the person who eats and causes offense. It is good not to eat meat or to drink wine, or to do anything by which your brother or sister stumbles. — Romans 14:20-21 (NASV)Free Subscription via Email
Category Archives: Brotherhood or Friendship
Men need Empathy, not Sympathy
Men need empathy, not sympathy, especially when they are emotionally hurting. And every man I know has a long list of hurts. He struggles with them every day. He needs you to feel his hurts with him! That will give … Continue reading
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A Confidential Container
A confidential container or meeting space is necessary for a man to share anything personal with you. Especially anything about his feelings. Therefor view each of your meetings as a clay jar. Realize that gossip is deadly: it will break … Continue reading
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How Many Brothers?
How many did Jesus and Paul have? How many brothers can you minister to in a month? Jesus did only 12. And He focused on 3 of those. Yes, Jesus addressed large crowds. He sends the 70/72 to spread the message. … Continue reading
“What do you find fulfilling?”
Asking “What do you find fulfilling? Can take your conversation to a whole new depth. Do not use this question too often with the same person. That can make it sound like you are working off a script. And that … Continue reading
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Active Listening
There is so much to say about active listening, on how the other guy knows we are truly listening. I will need several entries on this topic. Active listening starts with your total attention focused on the other person. If … Continue reading
How long does a meeting last?
My Usual meeting length. One hour is, to me, a short meeting length. Two to four hours are usually more productive than one-hour meetings. Dealing with heart level items takes a lot of time. My sessions occasionally go 6+ hours. Assuming you asked a … Continue reading
Conversation starter for one-on-one men’s meetings.
The heart of each meeting is a time of one-on-one, soul to soul discussion. So what is a good conversation starter to get a man to talk about this? There may be some discussion about what to order for lunch. Or maybe … Continue reading
Pre-Meeting Reminder
Shortly before you meet someone, send him a Pre-Meeting Reminder Message Each meeting gives you three contacts with your Brother. First, a message confirming the meeting in the next eight to 18 hours. The actual meeting. And scheduling the next … Continue reading
Bridge Cultural Gaps
We all have to bridge cultural gaps. Sometimes they are small other times gigantic. Please see this 2-minute video right now. My first attempts. My first cross-cultural jolt was when I spend a few days in Cairo Egypt. The streets we cluttered with … Continue reading
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My name is Frank. In-depth ministry between men is what this website is encouraging. How are you involved? Here are my recent posts. Please see the Contents page to learn what is here. Also, see the About Me and Mission pages.
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