Feb 11 2020
Men need empathy, not sympathy, especially when they are emotionally hurting. And every man I know has a long list of hurts. He struggles with them every day. He needs you to feel his hurts with him! That will give him a measure of relief. Physically be with him, listen to his hurt. And then …
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Feb 01 2020
A confidential container or meeting space is necessary for a man to share anything personal with you. Especially anything about his feelings. Therefor view each of your meetings as a clay jar. Realize that gossip is deadly: it will break the fragile jar. Why this analogy? First, clay jars break easily. And so does confidentiality. …
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Jan 04 2019
How many did Jesus and Paul have? How many brothers can you minister to in a month? Jesus did only 12. And He focused on 3 of those. Yes, Jesus addressed large crowds. He sends the 70/72 to spread the message. But He worked primarily with the 12. If that is all the infinite Son of God …
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Jan 04 2019
Asking “What do you find fulfilling? Can take your conversation to a whole new depth. Do not use this question too often with the same person. That can make it sound like you are working off a script. And that is something people do NOT like. Before you ask this question be sure you spend …
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Apr 12 2018
There is so much to say about active listening, on how the other guy knows we are truly listening. I will need several entries on this topic. Active listening starts with your total attention focused on the other person. If at all possible sit directly in front of him. Be close enough that you do …
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Mar 28 2018
My Usual meeting length. One hour is, to me, a short meeting length. Two to four hours are usually more productive than one-hour meetings. Dealing with heart level items takes a lot of time. My sessions occasionally go 6+ hours. Assuming you asked a very open-ended conversation starter then followed that up with the suggestions in this other entry. …
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Mar 24 2018
The heart of each meeting is a time of one-on-one, soul to soul discussion. So what is a good conversation starter to get a man to talk about this? There may be some discussion about what to order for lunch. Or maybe the project you are going to do together today. Or even the weather today. But …
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Mar 18 2018
Shortly before you meet someone, send him a Pre-Meeting Reminder Message Each meeting gives you three contacts with your Brother. First, a message confirming the meeting in the next eight to 18 hours. The actual meeting. And scheduling the next meeting. The post-meeting thankyou message eight to 24 hours later. Why this time frame? You …
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Jan 06 2018
We all have to bridge cultural gaps. Sometimes they are small other times gigantic. Please see this 2-minute video right now. My first attempts. My first cross-cultural jolt was when I spend a few days in Cairo Egypt. The streets we cluttered with shiny new Mercedes Benz cars and buses. As well as beasts of burden carrying heavy loads …
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Jan 02 2018
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